Episode 158 - Your Raw Marriage - Pastor, Have You Ever Thought About Your Marriage Like This Before?

We have vetted Doug Burford FOR YOU!
If you need help in your ministry marriage, Doug is your man! He is a small church pastor, and understands the demands that ministry oftentimes places on marriages. He is also a Licensed Professional Counselor, and can help you personally with struggles you may be having. Sometimes as pastors we don't know where to turn when we need help - Doug would be a great resource for you!

Doug is centrally located near Kansas City, KS,
but is also available through Skype or FaceTime. You can reach him at doug@dougburford.com or on the horn at (913) 642-2190. No matter where you are in the country, Doug is just a short flight away!

Doug is a...
- Church Planter & Pastor
- Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) (Kansas)
- Educator in the Gottman Institute's Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Program
- Level 1 Gottman method trained couple's therapist
- Associate Instructor in Old Testament for Walk Thru The Bible 
- Marketplace Chaplain
- Etc.
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Doug has a D.Min., an M.Div., and a Master's in Counseling. He is licensed and certified for more things than you can shake a stick at!

Take a look at his church website here and his personal website right here!

Regarding today's episode, #158:
Doug mentioned SIX THINGS that will make your marriage B.A.D. Very bad. Here they are... (you'll need to listen to the episode to understand them!)

1. Harsh Startups
2. The Four Horsemen: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling
3. Flooding
4. Body Language
5. Failed Repair Attempts
6. Negative Memories

Doug then talked about the SEVEN PRINCIPLES of a good, solid, growing, healthy marriage relationship - and here they are... (Again, you're gonna need to listen...)

1. Enhancing love maps
2. Nurturing fondness & admiration
3. Turning toward each other
4. Accepting influence (sharing power)
5. Solving solvable problems
6. Overcoming gridlock
7. Creating shared meaning